The People Around You Shape Your Future | Flavor Your Life
We often think about growth as something deeply personal.
We set goals. We change habits. We read books. We pray. We work on our mindset.
But there's another influence on our growth that deserves just as much attention:
The people around us.
Relationships are among life's greatest gifts. The right people can encourage us when we're discouraged, challenge us when we're settling, celebrate us when we're succeeding, and remind us who we are when life causes us to forget.
But relationships also influence what we believe, what we tolerate, and sometimes even who we become.
Growing on purpose also means connecting on purpose.
Pay Attention to Your Influences
Think about the people you interact with most often.
How do you typically feel after spending time with them?
Encouraged or depleted?
Inspired or discouraged?
Accepted or constantly judged?
Challenged to grow or encouraged to remain comfortable?
No relationship leaves us feeling wonderful every time. Healthy relationships have disagreements, and sometimes the people who love us most tell us things we don't particularly want to hear.
This isn't about surrounding ourselves only with people who agree with us.
It's about recognizing patterns of influence.
Be Mindful of Who Has Access to You
Not everyone belongs in your inner circle.
That doesn't mean becoming unkind, suspicious, or closed off.
We can treat people with dignity and still have boundaries.
We can love someone and recognize that the relationship needs distance.
We can appreciate years of history while acknowledging that a relationship has changed.
We can forgive without restoring the same level of access.
And we can wish someone well without inviting their chaos into our lives.
Some relationships are lifelong. Others are seasonal.
Healthy boundaries don't prevent wholesome relationships. They help protect them.
Find People Who Sharpen You
There is tremendous value in having people in your life who expect something from you.
Not perfection.
Growth.
Perhaps it's the friend who asks whether you've started the thing you've been talking about for six months.
The mentor who sees potential you haven't fully recognized.
The colleague who introduces you to a different way of thinking.
The person whose faith strengthens yours.
The younger person who teaches you something new.
Or the older person whose wisdom saves you from learning every lesson the hard way.
Proverbs 27:17 tells us, “As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.”
We need people who sharpen us.
Remember, You Are Someone's Circle Too
It's easy to evaluate everyone around us and ask whether they're good for our growth.
Here's the harder question:
What happens to other people because they spend time with me?
Do I encourage?
Do I listen?
Can I celebrate someone else's success without comparison?
Do I respect boundaries?
Can I apologize?
Do I speak life?
Do I bring peace, or do I continually bring conflict?
Wholesome relationships require reciprocity.
The goal isn't simply to find better people. It's also to become a better person to have in someone else's life.
Choose Your Relationships With Intention
Take inventory of your relationships, not from a place of judgment, but awareness.
Notice who encourages your growth.
Notice who consistently drains your peace.
Notice whose wisdom you respect.
Notice where boundaries may be needed.
And notice where you may need to show up differently.
Ask God for wisdom about the relationships that should be nurtured, those that may need boundaries, and the new connections you should remain open to receiving.
We weren't created to journey through life alone.
Choose people who help you grow, and become the kind of person who helps others grow too.
A Thought to Carry With You
The people I allow close to me influence who I am becoming, and my presence influences others too.
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With Intention,
Leslie Sims Palmore
